Love as a Web
Many people struggle not only with life but with love. We can get caught up in a fairy tale world that presumes that others will treat us as well as we treat them, but this is not always the case. To fall in love does not have as many requirements as we might think. When we fall in love, it feels right and therefore couldn’t be for the wrong reasons. Love can blind and imprison us, but when it is right, it can free us and expand our boundaries.
Love is a web and our heart is the spider that lies in waiting. When misapplied, we can set out involving ourselves in a one-sided fairy tale of love, a fairy tale in which the love is unrequited, where the only feeling of being in love comes from what we do for that other person. I call this blind love. Knowing that one does not share the sentiments is what ultimately breaks the illusion. But all is not for naught. True love is so much more.
Love is an invitation and our heart is the unbroken promise; it is security in the absence of a room of mirrors, illusions, and games. The broken lover is so seasoned in being used and abused that they might pass up true love when given the opportunity to partake in it. But love is kind and wiser than any man or woman. Love heals the scars from years of wounds inflicted by abusers. There is no mystery and no illusion.
True love is easy, predictable, and certain. When found, one may make the mistake of failing to appreciate the absence of drama. One might be so accustomed to needing to constantly make grand gestures that they forget that love is a two-way street. True love is a space occupied by two unconditional lovers. Enjoy the ride. Let this lover share in the experience of unconditional gifts of love.
Don’t let just any person get entangled in your web. Give your time and energy to someone that deserves it. You deserve it, too, and the right man/woman will feel the same way.